Thursday, August 16, 2007

The Good & The Ugly

I had a lovely day yesterday connecting with two seriously cool ladies who form the core of my personal Homeschool Community. Meeting together and planning, chatting, venting, asking and taking notes is very grounding and satisfying for me. I always come away feeling refreshed and confident and motivated. Isn't it great to have friends who do that for you?

Today, on the other hand, not so much. Kori was in fine form (not!) all day. Her mood culminated this evening and resulted in her feeling awful and me feeling like a failure. Obviously some sorting out to do there. The frustrating part for me is that I remember being exactly in the same spot she is right now. You know, the spot with no friends, nothing to do, noone to talk to and mean parents? I recall how my parents dealt with me and I recall vividly how nothing they said or did made me feel one bit better. So, apparently, I know how not to handle this....

And, apparently, payback is a bitch. Don't tell my dad I said so.


oom said...

I hear you. I have one of these at home, too.

And they aren't even teens yet....*sigh*

jugglingpaynes said...

It's interesting. I grew up in the city in public schools and I still didn't feel like I had lots of friends. It's made me more sensitive about finding friends for my kids than I should be. I mean, my parents never looked for kids for me to befriend. I was shy. You could stick me in a room full of kids my age (read: school)and it wouldn't make the least difference.
I remember in junior high a girl asked me if I was shy. When I said yes, she said, "Oh, then you aren't friendly." And she stopped trying to talk to me! My feeling is a shy kid needs a talkative kid to balance them out. Stick two shy kids together and you get a whole lot of quiet.
We are lucky to know an extroverted family with 4 kids and all of our kids (and the parents) get along. I think that's more important than having a large number of shallow friendships.
Whoops. This is long. Sorry.
Peace and Laughter,